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[PontusFromSweden]

liz06, on 19 June 2012 - 05:24 PM, said:

PontusFromSweden, on 19 June 2012 - 05:00 PM, said:

Am I the only one who keep "forgetting" that she is gone, and is almost as shocked today as when the news came, I actually have to explain to my brain, "she is dead", and I still dont get it.

Oh believe me. Sometimes I catch myself reading articles and when it gets to the end where they always have to say "Whitney Houston died suddenly on Feb.11........." it still shocks me, like I didn't know. It's weird how it keeps happening.

yes yes yes, last night, i was making some iphone ring tunes....had to stop, too sad

[ILoveYouBack]

PontusFromSweden, on 20 June 2012 - 06:55 AM, said:

liz06, on 19 June 2012 - 05:24 PM, said:

PontusFromSweden, on 19 June 2012 - 05:00 PM, said:

Am I the only one who keep "forgetting" that she is gone, and is almost as shocked today as when the news came, I actually have to explain to my brain, "she is dead", and I still dont get it.

Oh believe me. Sometimes I catch myself reading articles and when it gets to the end where they always have to say "Whitney Houston died suddenly on Feb.11........." it still shocks me, like I didn't know. It's weird how it keeps happening.

yes yes yes, last night, i was making some iphone ring tunes....had to stop, too sad

You are not the only one! I hear people preface her name with "the late" or see the phrase "who died suddenly..." after her name and I feel myself wanting to say "What????" as if I'm learning the news for the first time.

[ILoveYouBack]

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment.

Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general.

I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song.

It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is.

I still feel so robbed.

[truthspeaker06]

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment.

Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general.

I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song.

It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is.

I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for.

I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

[juzly]

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment.

Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general.

I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song.

It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is.

I still feel so robbed.

yeah, music doesn't feel the same. I work in a job were i can listen to music all day, at home i listen to music all the time, even when i am sleeping i can't sleep unless there is music playing quietly. Music has been all around me all my life. Whitney's music has always been the lead and center of it all. But now i don't think i have put on any cds at all, infact i have listened to same classical, a little jazz intrusmentals, but no vocals. Even music in general reminds me how much i miss whitney. Gosh i miss her so badly.

[Carmen]

PontusFromSweden, on 19 June 2012 - 05:00 PM, said:

Am I the only one who keep "forgetting" that she is gone, and is almost as shocked today as when the news came, I actually have to explain to my brain, "she is dead", and I still dont get it.

Just seeing the words "Whitney Houston died" put together hurts so much, sometimes it feels like I'm in a horrible dream. I know she was human just like us, but the unfairness of life hits me every time when I think of her.

And to ILoveYouBack: For me, music died when she passed away, I know I will never be as enthusiastic towards any other singer/performer as I was when I heard a new Whitney song for the first time or when I saw her singing live. I was always rather interested in oldies/ retro music from '70s, '80s and '90s, artists/groups I never had the opportunity to see on stage as they died or are not active anymore. But never was a so called fan of anyone else but Whitney. Her music and all the things she represented and stood up for was always a basic where I could turn to, so I'm still lost.

Edited by Carmen, 20 June 2012 - 11:08 AM.

[juzly]

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

Indeed! That's inspiring , thanks truthspeaker! much love.

[truthspeaker06]

juzly, on 20 June 2012 - 11:11 AM, said:

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

Indeed! That's inspiring , thanks truthspeaker! much love.

no problem, that's just how I choice to think. We took the fall, but now we gotta stand tall!

[ILoveYouBack]

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

I really like your perspective. Thank you for that. I'm going to try to SOLDIER UP, but it might take me awhile. I'm just not quite ready to "Celebrate," even though I know it's what Whitney is asking us to do. But today I decided I should make a playlist of my favorite "Divas who have left" - Phoebe, Phyllis, Etta, Luther, Michael, etc., and...yes...now Whitney. The ONLY two people I can think of who are alive and who I think I can listen to are Natalie (especially since she and Whitney loved each other so much) and Aretha (but I'm so mad at Aretha I can't stand to listen to her BLEEP right now)...

[Sweet P]

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 03:20 PM, said:

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

I really like your perspective. Thank you for that. I'm going to try to SOLDIER UP, but it might take me awhile. I'm just not quite ready to "Celebrate," even though I know it's what Whitney is asking us to do. But today I decided I should make a playlist of my favorite "Divas who have left" - Phoebe, Phyllis, Etta, Luther, Michael, etc., and...yes...now Whitney. The ONLY two people I can think of who are alive and who I think I can listen to are Natalie (especially since she and Whitney loved each other so much) and Aretha (but I'm so mad at Aretha I can't stand to listen to her BLEEP right now)...

Don't forget about Gladys and Chaka

[truthspeaker06]

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 03:20 PM, said:

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment. Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general. I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song. It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is. I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for. I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

I really like your perspective. Thank you for that. I'm going to try to SOLDIER UP, but it might take me awhile. I'm just not quite ready to "Celebrate," even though I know it's what Whitney is asking us to do. But today I decided I should make a playlist of my favorite "Divas who have left" - Phoebe, Phyllis, Etta, Luther, Michael, etc., and...yes...now Whitney. The ONLY two people I can think of who are alive and who I think I can listen to are Natalie (especially since she and Whitney loved each other so much) and Aretha (but I'm so mad at Aretha I can't stand to listen to her BLEEP right now)...

oh no I understand & it will happen when you are ready. sometimes when people are dealing with grief, they kinda stuck in the angry phase for a minute and that's ok. there's no timetable on how and when to move on. I believe that there will come a day for you when it wont hurt as much & you wont be as angry. It never completely goes away, but you do find a way to manage. I always suggest Yolanda Adams & CeCe Winans to people who are going through what we as a Whitney family are going through. they have some amazing songs of healing & comfort. Not even from a religious standpoint but from a humanistic one.

[mario]

I've just finished watching Cinderella. Since it happened, I could not watch any of Whitney's movies. So tonight I decided I would, but something "light" like Cinderella. But that hurt! Listening to her voice, watching her moves, listening to her jokes, seeing her unmatched beautiful smile, was nice but painful. In my head I keep her alive, I force myself to think she's still here, cause if I bring myself to think otherwise, I just break down. I still can't take it. It' s too much to bear. Since the funeral, there are some songs I still can't listen to, I don't even attempt to: I will always love you, where do broken hearts go, greatest love of all, saving all my love for you, didn't we almost have it all and you give good love (the very first song I heard from her). IWALY especially. I'm scared. I'm afraid seeing her casket leave the church while her voice was singing that song, has ruined it for me for ever. Cause, right now, if I even think about the "If I..." I see that casket and I break down in tears. I'm a mess. I should "soldier up" but what can I say, I'm weak and I just can't. Don't want to think about it. Pretending she's still here, comforts me at the moment.

[liz06]

truthspeaker06, on 20 June 2012 - 11:02 AM, said:

ILoveYouBack, on 20 June 2012 - 08:03 AM, said:

So, I realized recently that I don't really listen to my iPod at all anymore. I do listen to Doug Banks on V103 in the afternoons, but that is about it, and it's really only because I enjoy the "adult conversations" segment.

Is anyone having a hard time listening to music, period. Not just Whitney's, but music in general.

I just can't stand to listen to other singers getting to move on with their lives (as they should) and get to record new songs and have radio stations play them and fans buy them. I get so angry and envious of them and their fans. I love Mary J. Blige's "Mr. Wrong," but I don't feel right grooving to it. It hurts to celebrate her for that song when all I think about is how Whitney will never sing another new song.

It's like my heart feels all new music should be banned; radio stations should stop playing new songs. I want to shout "What are you doing??? Whitney is gone!! How dare you play that song." My mind knows how ridiculous that notion is.

I still feel so robbed.

I felt this way for about 2-3 months after Whitney passed. The ONLY thing I would allow myself to listen to was my Gospel Music because its where I draw strength from. I gave up on Music & felt like Music had died because Whitney was gone. The idea of What she meant to music & the fact that she'd never get to sing another song really disturbed me. But then I heard her in my head sometime late April/Early May saying how music had the power to heal & what she & her music ALWAYS stood for.

I started to come back around & then when Celebrate & Sparrow came out recently, it really shook me out of my funk. The irony is that she was the reason I was IN the funk & it took her to shake me OUT of my funk. Only Nippy had, has, & will always have that kinda power. I miss her terribly, some moments it still hurts like hell, but then I'm reminded that she stood for love, truth, & courage & she would want us to carry on. She was our "Solider Girl" & now it's time we "Soldier" up as well.

yes, Yes, YES! You Preach! That is it!

[CoNcLusIveTrUthZ]

I was making a post on a Sims fansite about SimCity coming out February 2012. I meant 2013. Seeing "February 2012" literally made my heart sink. I feel sad as BLEEP! just seeing that string of letters and numbers. I have an aching in my chest now. I came here to share.

How impactful was this on our lives? SMFH.

[Petra]

I didn't listen to any music for about 2 weeks after she passed. It was really weird for me, I would actually go out without my headphones which is something that never happens. I couldn't listen to anyone else's music and I couldn't listen to her either. So I settled for silence and it was healing in a way.

Then came a period of listening to her music only, paying attention to avoiding certain songs, of course. That lasted for about a month and a half. I couldn't stand the fact that life went on and people kept making music, I had so many negative feelings about music in general and all artists. It didn't matter if I actually liked them or not, I "hated" them all.

And then I kinda got fed up with both the negativity and listening to her music only. I guess it was partly because I listened to a very small portion of her discography, like 20 songs or something like that (because I was afraid of moving to the ballads and deeper songs). So I started combining Whitney's music with everyone else's.

I can say that I'm in a good place now, I'm back to normal. I listen to her almost every day and I have no problem with other music. I guess music is a part of me. It took some time, but in the end, I can't just keep ignoring the world around me and keep myself in that sad, dark place. I believe she wouldn't want that. She wanted us to celebrate and I'm celebrating all of music. Hers, of course, holds a special place in my heart. I'm actually getting excited about new music, it's been a long time and it feels really good, healing in a way.

It's a process and I guess everyone has to do their time.